10 Ways to Remain Present & Enjoy Your Wedding Day
You’ve probably heard it before: “Your wedding day will fly by and be a blur.” While this can be true—making it crucial to have a photographer and videographer—there are ways to minimize the blur, notice more moments, and create lasting memories. Here are 10 tips to help you stay present and fully enjoy your wedding day.
1. Remember Your "Why" and "How"
Before your wedding day arrives, take time to define your “Why.” What is most important to both of you—not just on your wedding day, but in your lives together? Do you prioritize perfect florals over having a live band? Are intimate moments with family more important than getting a formal photo with every guest? Would you rather have a small, intimate wedding or a large celebration with everyone you know?
Understanding your “Why” will guide your decisions throughout the planning process. It will help you allocate your budget wisely and shape how your day unfolds. For example, if you value moments with your parents and partner above all, plan “How” you will create those moments. It could be a first look with a parent, exchanging letters before the ceremony, or sharing a quiet moment together.
Knowing your “Why” and “How” ensures that your wedding day aligns with what truly matters to you, making it easier to stay present and focused on the moments that count.
2. Have a Loose Timeline
While a timeline is essential to keep your day organized, it’s important to keep it flexible. Build in buffer time—5, 10, or 15 minutes here and there—to allow for delays, like hair and makeup running behind or a first look taking longer than expected. This extra time gives you breathing room if things fall behind schedule, so you can avoid stress and stay present in each moment.
3. Accept "Perfectly Imperfect"
Things won’t always go as planned, and that’s okay. When something doesn’t go exactly as you envisioned, remember your “Why” and focus on the “Hows” that are going right. For instance, if the flowers aren’t exactly what you expected, shift your attention to the joy of your first look or the laughter of your bridesmaids. Choosing quality vendors decreases the likelihood of these issues, but staying focused on what’s truly important is always helpful.
4. Hire a Planner
A wedding planner is your secret weapon for staying present. If something goes wrong, a planner can handle it without you ever knowing. For example, I’ve seen weddings where floral arrangements were mixed up. The bride without a planner stressed over it during her makeup session, while the bride with a planner remained blissfully unaware—the issue was resolved before the guests even arrived.
5. Have a Checklist
Make sure to complete your wedding checklist at least a day before the wedding, if not earlier. Pack everything you need—shoes, earrings, emergency kit—a few days in advance. This ensures you start your wedding day relaxed, knowing everything is ready.
6. Limit Distractions
As you go through your day, limit distractions like your phone (unless you’re FaceTiming someone who couldn’t attend). Take a few moments to look around, soak in the atmosphere, and appreciate the presence of your loved ones. Notice the conversations, the laughter, and the little details that make your wedding day unique. These moments are worth cherishing in the moment, as well as through the photos and videos captured.
7. Forget About the Cameras
This might be easier said than done, but try to forget about the cameras. You hired your photographer and videographer to capture your day as it unfolds, so don’t stress about how you look or what you say. Some of the best moments happen when you’re just being yourself—whether it’s a spontaneous hug, a belly laugh, or a joyful dance.
8. Trust Your Team
You chose your vendors for a reason—trust them to do their job. Don’t worry about the details; instead, focus on enjoying your day. Your vendors are there to serve you and help create the day you’ve envisioned.
9. Eat
It’s easy to forget to eat amidst the excitement, but staying nourished is key to feeling good throughout the day. Pack snacks and make time to eat to keep your energy up and avoid getting hangry.
10. Close Your Eyes and Breathe
Throughout the day, take moments to close your eyes, take a deep breath, and be present. Even during quiet moments like getting your makeup done, listen to the sounds around you and appreciate the love and joy filling the room. These small moments of mindfulness can help you stay grounded and fully engaged in the experience.
BONUS TIP: Stay Present During the Planning Process
These tips aren’t just for your wedding day—they apply to the entire planning process. Celebrate milestones, enjoy date nights, and take time to savor this season of your life. You’ll create even more meaningful memories to cherish by staying present throughout the process.
